playdates. you can love 'em or hate 'em. as a fairly new stay at home mom they are vital to me so I don't go completely insane alone w/my kids all day. getting out to talk w/other mom's even if it is about our kids is something I look forward to every week. why then do I suck so badly at it? maybe because Ive spent the past 6 1/2 years of having children w/a not so flexible schedule and therefore wasn't able to hone my girlfriend skills. the first couple always feel rather interviewy w/me giving up far more information about myself than I ever manage to gather from my companions. Its that whole chatty gene I inherited from my dad. I then get home trying to remember names was it Sally or Molly? was she married/divorced? she did have a kid there right? finding girlfriends is far more difficult than finding a mate. a mate you're basing things on how you click emotionally balanced w/how you click physically, a girlfriend is 100% emotional. I at least am not drawn to a girlfriend w/o knowing why, where as I was definitely drawn to my husband from the get go. I usually go home and think of all things I should've said or done or who I should've given my number too, maybe next time. worst of all what if you click but your kids do not? and then the next step of family get-togethers what if the husbands loathe each other? how many fairy tale friendships are out there where all the moons and stars align? I over think things waaaaaaaay too much. no wonder social websites are so popular, its easier for one. If you get in an argument you can state your case or not and never "speak" to the person again. Not so true in real life. You're going to run into your former friend at the park or school open house. girlfriends take work. I guess now I have some time to make them a priority in my life. They have no idea what they're in for, maybe I should give them this link.
dinner tonight Pizza!!!! w/cucumber, tomato, walla walla onion salad, we are being over-run w/cukes must eat some tonight! tomorrow will be zucchini muffins for breakfast playdate not sure the recipe yet may wing it.
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